I disagree with the whole ‘you can’t tell me I’ll want kids someday’ issue.

I know someone who doesn’t want children and yes I said to her ‘Oh you will one day.’ because hey you never know. I mean we were like 17/18 at the time, and omg the reaction I got.

It wasn’t rational, it was just ‘Children are disgusting, they are loud, and obnoxious, and smelly and dirty and ect ect ect!’ 

Now this person has always ‘hated’ kids. Not just babies, or toddlers, no everyone from the ages of -100 to 18 she hates.

I may have offhandedly said ‘But you’re biologically programmed to want children. It’s human nature, blah blah blah.’ Because yea, you are. I didn’t even know she was offended until a few weeks later when she said she’d been in a mood with me for ages because I basically said she’s got a ‘mental illness’ because she doesn’t want children.

No. I, like many other people, just assume that she’d want children when she’s older. Apparently this makes me a scumbag.

I’m sorry, and you may all hate me for this now, but how do you know?

Okay maybe I don’t know if you will have kids someday, but neither do you! I don’t want to be told by a 17 year old that they don’t want kids because they have their whole life ahead of them. Lots of people don’t have kids until their late 20’s these days anyway.

I understand if you can’t have children, or if there will be complications, but when I have to listen to someone who can have children but don’t because they don’t like them and are SO certain at such a stupidly young age they don’t want them, and then have to go to listen to someone who CAN’T have children and it tears them up inside because creating a life with someone you love is one of lifes greatest experiences…I just don’t know what to think.

A lot of people who’ve bluntly said to me they don’t want kids come across with the view that it’s because that’s what society wants. ‘Oh I’m a woman and having and wanting children and a family is putting feminism back hundreds of years!’

No it isn’t. Omg.

I know I’m coming off as closed minded and this is a weak argument. But it’s not an argument. I just get so fed up of people deciding that they don’t want kids at such a young age. 

And yes you can change your mind. And no it’s not pity or whatever. It’s just unusual for people not to want children. It really is. Tumblr may be full of people who disagree, but you just can’t know for 100% certainty. Who knows you might be 50 and want kids…a little late then, but hey, you never know.

If it comes down to it and you and your partner decide you don’t want kids then fair enough. But when single girls, or women in a short relationship are so certain they don’t want them, that’s not certain.

I mean I’ve always said I don’t want laser eye surgery (I know this is completely different but still) and I’ve said for about 10 years now that I really don’t want it and I’m sure I won’t want it in the future. You never know maybe in the future I might want it. Who knows?! You don’t and I don’t.

Because I am young.

Now you can say to me ‘Trust me, you’ll want it in the future. When you’re older. Because it’s human to have good eye sight.’ and I will say, ‘yeah well I have no plans to have surgery, I don’t think I ever will, but I understand what you mean, and I won’t rip the shit out of you because it’s my body and I can do what I want.’

…okay, tl;dr, I think I’ve verged so far away from the point I was trying to make…

BASICALLY I just get so angry when people rip the shit out of someone for making an offhand comment that they might want children someday. Because you are the minority, every creature is designed to reproduce, now you can argue all you want because that’s your opinion, and this is mine.

If people who say ‘you’ll change your mind’ aren’t allowed to state their opinion of you changing your mind, then you’re not allowed to state your opinion that you think that person is an arsehole for even suggesting it.

You may all hate me now.